Since the end of last year, I’ve been consumed with organizing and overhauling everything in sight. I’ve always been sort of an organization geek but this is on a whole other level. It started with the guest room but I soon realized that so many aspects of my life could be overhauled: this blog, work projects, my wardrobe, the entertainment I consume, my daily routine and schedule, the rest of the house(!)….. Overhaul may be too strong a word since things weren’t that bad. But basically, there is a lot of physical and mental clutter that is not serving me and nowadays, I really want to get down to what is truly important, what I really love and what I value.
So thus far, an entire truck full of furniture, household items and clothing have been donated, the kitchen and pantry have been simplified, my closet has been re-organized, my calendar and travels have been organized for the next six months, a 2015 to-do list for the house has been made and an editorial calendar for this blog has been set. I have been on such a high from getting all of this done, I just want to do more, more, more! Having a physically neat and tidy space is nice, of course, but I just feel so much better mentally!
So a couple of things precipitated all of this.
First, having lived in our house for a few years now, I have really gotten to know it and how we like to use it and this in turn, has really helped me to see what we need and don’t need. When we first moved in, I said that I was going to take my time with this one unlike all of our past homes. Well, I have, I’ve learned a lot as a result and I feel ready to take it across the finish line!
Second, I decided I’m done with trying to make things work that aren’t really my style. You may remember that when we moved into this house, my parents gifted us a lot of their furniture that never really fit us. But I accepted them, partly because we had rooms to fill and partly out of a feeling of obligation. Over the years, I tried to make those things work (and could argue that I succeeded to some extent) but I was never totally happy with any of it. I firmly believe that having a home that reflects who we are is one of the keys to our happiness and I have always strived to do this in all the homes I have lived in. So it was a real Duh moment when I finally realized that my dissatisfaction with the state of my house was rooted in the fact I was trying to force things that weren’t me into my home. Like I said, a real Duh moment.
So I began with the obvious (the house) but these ideas soon made their way into other areas of my life.
It was a natural extension to apply these two concepts to my personal style and I’ve been fine tuning and editing my wardrobe accordingly. Then I realized that they apply to my lifestyle as well. Really honing in on what I value has helped me to prioritize how I want to spend my time and energy. So this year, I’m spending more time creating and learning and letting go of pointless activities and projects that don’t have a pull for me anymore.
I’ve also always tried to apply these principles to this blog, even if it wasn’t always conscious. So I just want to affirm that I will continue to only publish content that I feel inspired to share. I think there are different phases in the lifecycle of a blog such as comparing, second guessing and burning out. In six years, I’ve gone through all of them (some more than once)! At times, I have also questioned what and how much I want to share, what direction to take things and whether it’s okay to change course. And in the end, I’ve concluded there is no wrong or right way to blog. After all, it’s a personal blog! We all have to do what works and feels right to us; and that, too, could evolve as I evolve.
Organizing and overhauling my life this way has made me so much happier but what I’ve learned in the process has been even more valuable. By really zeroing in on who we are at our core, the choices we have to make and the direction we should take become so much clearer.
And that brings me to my final thought. As much as we’d all like to believe that we don’t care what anyone else thinks of us, as humans, I don’t know if it’s possible to completely rise above it (with the exception of maybe a handful of people). What I do know, however, is that the more comfortable we are in our own skin, the less concerned we are with other people’s opinions and that is so liberating. (Are you impressed that I got to this point without using the word ‘authenticity?!’) I feel like I’m at the point in my life where I really know who I am and I want to express myself freely in my home, my art, my blog…. in all aspects of my life. I don’t think there are any areas that can’t be improved when we show up as our true selves.
So, are any of you are going through anything similar? I’d love to hear any thoughts!
(I didn’t get into all the specifics because this post is already epic long but I’ll be sharing details with you throughout the year as I continue on this path – starting with some things on that to-do list next week. Thanks so much for reading!)
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